Stalking - Harass, Intimidate, Terrorize

A stalker can be someone you know or someone than you have never met. They are people who become obsessed with their victims and will do what ever it takes to get the information that they need to learn their victims. They may go through someone's trash can, get information from a person's friends or family, call the person's job, doctor, apartment complex pretending to be someone else to get more information. They may get information from public records, internet searches or they may pay a private investigator.

If a stalker wants to find you, they will find you. They are that persistent. The problem is that stalkers tend to be extremely intelligent individuals so they are resourceful. They often have personality disorders but this does not keep them from being charming when needed to get what they want. They will not stop until they get what they want, which is usual to have an intimate relationship with their victim. They do not understand or refuse to accept that the person does not want to be in a relationship with them.

Stalkers do not follow rules or obey by laws, which make them very dangerous. Having a restraining order will more times than not do nothing to deter a stalker from watching, following, or calling their victim.

A stalker will follow their victim showing up at places the victim goes. They may call the victim excessively. Even if she never answers the call, the stalker will keep calling hoping one day she will just give in and respond to the calls. The more a victim denies them the more they want to declare their undying love. They usually become threatening and sometimes a stalker will become violent. They may even kill their victims.

It is very important for the public to know that stalking is not a crime of love or passion, but a crime about power and control.